The challenge for parents is to help your teen cope with emotions and deal with anger in a more constructive way:
Establish rules and consequences. At a time when both you and your teen are calm, explain that there's nothing wrong with feeling angry, but there are unacceptable ways of expressing it. If your teen lashes out, for example, he or she will have to face the consequences — a loss of privileges or even police involvement. Teens need rules, now more than ever.
Uncover what is behind the anger. Is your son sad or depressed? For example, does your teen have feelings of inadequacy because his or her peers have things that your son doesn't? Does your teen just need someone to listen to him or her without judgment?
Be aware of anger warning signs and triggers. Does your teen get headaches or start to pace before exploding with rage? Does a certain class at school always trigger anger? When teens can identify the warning signs that their temper is starting to boil, it allows them to take steps to defuse the anger before it gets out of control.
Help your teen find healthy ways to relieve anger. Exercise, team sports, even simply hitting a punch bag or a pillow can help relieve tension and anger. Many teens also use art or writing to creatively express their anger.
Give your teen space to retreat. When your teen is angry, allow him to retreat to a place where it is safe to cool off. Don't follow your teen and demand apologies or explanations while he or she is still raging; this will only prolong or escalate the anger, or even provoke a physical response.
Manage your own anger. You can't help your teen if you lose your temper. As difficult as it sounds, you have to remain calm and balanced no matter how much your son provokes you. If you or other members of your family scream, hit each other, or throw things, your teen will naturally assume that these are appropriate ways to express his or her anger as well.
At Wood Creek Academy we offer parents assistance so that before, during and after the time your son is with us you have the necessary tools and skills for effective communication with your son in a new and improved way. Your teenage boy will also learn ways to communicate with you so that you are able to work out difficulties. You will find mutual respect and learn how to give and take in an open trusting relationship.
Give our enrollment specialist a call to discuss your teenager's problems so that we can assist you in making sound decisions for your son.
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