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Teenagers go through many rapid changes physical, mental and emotional.  Self-esteem refers to how a teen feels about himself and he expects to be accepted and valued by others who are important to him. With teens they define themselves with other teens.  Depending on who they associate with, their family situations and their own thoughts and ideas they can find themselves in conflict with the reality of how they are thought of by their peers, by adults and by themselves.  Adolescence is the time of identity development, when relationships and school identities.  One
significant differentiating characteristic between childhood and adolescence lies within the realm
of friends and peers. As the role of parents as primary caregivers starts to fade, peers begin to replace parents as the most important reference point in their lives.contribute in different ways.  Who your teenager associates with is who he will become.

There are two common low self-esteem responses: 1) to feel reserved, incompetent and worthless; 2) to feel angry and desire to get even with others.

Individuals who feel down generally feel unsuccessful and overwhelmed by the tasks of life.

When he is unable to meet the Signs of low self esteem can be the following: 

  1. Social withdrawal
  2. Anxiety and emotional turmoil
  3. Lack of social skills and self confidence. Depression and/or bouts of sadness
  4. Less social conformity
  5. Eating disorders
  6. Inability to accept compliments
  7. An Inability to see yourself ‘squarely’ – to be fair to yourself
  8. Accentuating the negative
  9. Exaggerated concern over what you imagine other people think
  10. Self neglect
  11. Treating yourself badly but NOT other people
  12. Worrying whether you have treated others badly
  13. Reluctance to take on challenges
  14. Reluctance to put yourself first or anywhere.
  15. Reluctance to trust your own opinion
  16. Expecting little out of life for yourself.

Potential Resources

  • Mild cases
    •  behavioral health professionals (including psychologists, social workers, counselors, and psychiatrists)
    • chool psychologists, counselors, and teachers
    • Your family doctor or pediatrician
    • Your minister, rabbi, bishop, or priest
    • Parent support groups
  • Medium Cases – Multiple problems including additions, schooling, some behavior problems
    • Health insurance company (look for ‘behavioral health services’ or ‘mental/nervous services’ listed in your health benefits booklet)
    • Community information‐referral Programs
    • Daily Outpatient Programs
  • Advanced Cases – School suspension, runaway, uncontrollable behavior problems, drug and alcohol addiction, personal harm, peer pressures
    • Addiction Treatment Center
    • Behavior Modification Boarding School*
    • Holistic Residential Therapy Programs
    • Life Skills for Teenagers Schools



This entry was posted in Blog, Teen Help for Parents on September 4, 2012 by eto.

* Updated rewrite March 2013